The lights are on, the music’s playing, and it seems everyone in America is with friends and family today. If you’re alone, it may just not seem right.Dr. Ken Jacobsen says the answer’s to get outside your comfort zone and do things that made you happy in the past. Jacobsen, who works in the UNI student counseling center, says the holidays are a time for people to clarify what it takes to make them happy. He says you might have to try something new, or go back to something you’ve let slip away. Single friends often tell the doctor it’s such a couples-oriented society, they feel “left out” all year round. Dr. Jacobsen advises doing something you enjoy, so whether or not you find yourself alone, it’ll be rewarding. Jacobsen says it may be comforting for those alone to know that family members who spend lots of time together over the holidays find it can be very stressful.